I was inspired by a small incident to reflect on the etiquette in interpersonal communication. In the process of interpersonal communication, we usually pay attention to some details that can influence our impression of a person. This is a normal behavior for humans.
For example, when two people are chatting, if one of them keeps checking their phone constantly, it gives off a very impolite impression. Of course, if there is work to be done or other matters to attend to, that's a different story. However, if one is truly busy, such social interaction activities wouldn't occur. So, it's a paradox. In essence, there are hardly any situations that are extremely busy.
In social interactions, most of us hold a kind intention, hoping to gain some "benefits" from others. Here, benefits refer more to a virtual emotion, such as happiness, joy, satisfaction, etc. Therefore, in my usual social interactions with friends, including but not limited to dining together, traveling, etc., I always focus on the activity at hand. If there are other things to handle, I will take care of them in advance and ensure they do not affect the ongoing activity.
I believe this is the attitude that a normal person should have in social interactions, a necessary attitude that is filled with positive energy and optimism. If both parties adopt this attitude, I believe the social interaction will be a pleasant experience.
However, as the saying goes, "There are all kinds of birds in a big forest." You cannot guarantee that everyone's social attitude and behavior are positive. This translates into a person's etiquette in daily terms. You cannot be sure if they are truly polite or if they have offended you in some way.
So, if you feel uncomfortable or have any opinions about them, the best approach is to indirectly inquire and see what important reasons they have for behaving in a discourteous manner. If there are genuine reasons, I will express understanding.
But if it is a personality issue that causes them to always behave this way, I usually express understanding, but I will reassess whether this person truly has the potential to become a good friend in the future.
I believe that basic etiquette is essential.
Furthermore, phones are not that entertaining, and it's unnecessary to walk or eat while constantly looking at your phone. If you truly want to enjoy yourself, you can play to your heart's content when alone. When in a group, it's best to prioritize social interaction; otherwise, socializing loses its meaning, doesn't it?